Misplaced priorities

This world is not a place where we belong. People live lives like they will never die but live forever. And again, there are a lot of people who are alive but do not actually live. Most of us can not differentiate between the two. Being alive does not necessarily mean living! Meaning? Any being with a soul attached to it’s body is alive. Plants,brutes and Mankind have souls,but do plants and bruteslive? Well, but that is a discussion for another day, today I have something more important to talk about.

So I’ll repeat myself. The world is not a place where we’ll dwell forever, it is just a spot where we seek the path to our destiny. What is our destiny? we all know the answer to that, depending on the lifestyle one leads. I’m seated at the end of a huge rock besides the waters of Fort Jesus, dangling my feet as I am writing this piece on my Lumia 520…

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My Ideal Jobs

It is that time of the semester in my school and as it is no one loves revising for exams. Right ahead of me are six people and one behind me on the right wing of the 2nd floor of my library. You could argue that it is on a Friday afternoon but hell nah! in my school even a Saturday can appear to be a Monday if there’re exams. Everyone seem to be busy with their work, probably trying to grasp the last point before the exam starts in the next 73 minutes.

After a round on twitter I got a feeling that I am not in the right career, or say, I am not doing what I am supposed to be doing. Ideally I am supposed to follow a career in accounting or finance but mainly accounting. I recently graduated from Certified Public Accounting and I am now doing a degree in Commerce having a double major in Accounting and Finance. Holy Lord! Sometimes the whole idea of achieving all this at my age makes me proud of myself but at other times I have doubts about if this will lead me to my destiny. I have read all those quotes about destiny but still…maybe I am a really pessimistic person.

So in all that I got an idea that maybe I should do a personality test about careers. Off I typed “personality test” and thanks to auto-complete it gave me exactly what I wanted. “personality test for careers”. I did all the 24 questions and quite honestly I got a real time response. Today I was all honest thinking like “really? this is so obvious” and obviously enough I found out that my ideal career path is on things to do with research, processes and systems. Under this, jobs include accountant, scientific researcher, investigative journalist, legal assistant, book-keeper, health and safety officer and purchasing professional. Accountant and book-keeping had to be there. Thank you very much The Guardian. Thank you. I did not even expect it considering my level of honesty and “obviousness”. But hey, my second most likely career path is to be on things to do with creative use of ideas, materials or situations. This one I liked. Jobs under this category include graphic designer, training consultant, wedding planner and public relations. Reason being: “Your ideal work is mainly about working imaginatively with ideas or designs. This includes jobs in the arts, performing, creative writing, and also visual design, lateral thinking, business creativity, adapting or coming up with new ideas, working in situations where no rule-book exists.” Yass! Makes more sense! Close by with a tie of 18 points was a career in supporting people (I don’t know why I am finding it funny). I agree that I love working with people, their well-being and their development as the main focus of your work  but the jobs under it I am not sure. Jobs include teacher, life coach, therapist, nurse, learning and development and career coach.

At this point I am speechless. I don’t know what more I should write. Accountant, scientific researcher, investigative journalist, legal assistant, book-keeper, health and safety officer, purchasing professional, graphic designer, training consultant, wedding planner, public relations, teacher, life coach, therapist, nurse, learning and development and career coach are my ideal jobs.

I will have to match this face with one of them… ideal job

….after hours of evaluating this result.

Enjoy yours and take your test too. Let’s see who was meant to be a president. LOL!

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A confusing journey to paradise?

I recently spoke to my friend whom I parted ways with after high school which was about 5 years ago. I will call her Valentine although this is not her real name. The normal catching up was all done and the as the conversation was ending she mentioned to me that she had gotten saved. I did not give it much thought because anyway most of us had gotten saved after 3 years of being out here in the world. I did not even bother asking her many questions because getting saved meant exactly that. However, before I said good night she invited me to join her in her now new church where she felt her heart was. This caught my attention and I asked her which church.

I had earlier converted from Protestantism to Catholicism in the Easter of this year, 2015. All along my journey to becoming a catholic I grew a strong conviction that the Catholic Church was the mother church and that while in it seeing God would be easier. Valentine on the other hand had been a Catholic since we knew each other in primary school and if I am not wrong she was once a leader in YCS, a Christian Union version of Catholic students. I think it meant Young Catholics Society. Never mind. Valentine had converted to Protestantism and she was neither sorry about it. It was not the PCEA, Anglican, Methodist or Pentecostal kind of Protestantism. It was one of these newly incorporated churches that have names similar to ‘Butterfly to heaven’ or ‘Christ is here ministries’. I will call them ministerial Protestantism.

I honestly got very concerned about the whole thing. First, I, Nelly who had vowed to never leave my born-with Methodist faith for the Catholic faith at whatever cost and then a Valentine who had not just left the catholic faith but had left it big. Not to belittle or undermine the ministerial Protestantism but hey, they just started sprouting the other day and they do not have a much solid foundation for their history except the normal testimonies that their founders (senior pastors or bishops so to say) keep testifying of how a burning spear appeared to them at night and they knew that was a call to apostolate. If it were the four mentioned above I’d not have much of a concern.

I was cautious on the questions I asked her next and I had to all act up how happy I was for her that she had found a new faith that she knew would lead her to seeing God. This is the sole purpose of our Christian living. Her reason for leaving the faith was quite astounding and to paraphrase it, “I did not feel my heart being in there. I had a big quench of something bigger, a quench of true worship of God which I did not get in the Catholic Church but got it here.” The thing is I could not argue with her about anything nor question her. It was clear her heart and mind were made up and she was seeking her God the best way she knew. I wish you the best Valentine.

But is it really about the church you go to or about the faith you have or is it about something greater than all these that none of us understand? At the end of our lives here on earth will God judge us according to our respective faith or how will it be done? If all of us will be judged differently, won’t it be unfair to those who kept on reading more about the last days and fair to those who knew nothing about morality and living right except by virtue of their practical reason? I ponder. As I think about all this though, I keep thinking about the spiritual decision that I made. Everything in the Catholic faith I can tell you for free is not a walk in the park. If you commit a sin it is advised that you make a confession to a priest and perform the penance given. Elsewhere, this is news. You sin and pray to your God to forgive you your sins. Does it in any way mean that one (catholic) cannot pray for forgiveness about their sins and receive forgiveness?

Considering these are the last days, I cannot say this or that is right or wrong. God knew such a time would come and in His right time He has brought us these puzzles to us to make decisions on what is right and what is wrong. Even then though, let us not be foolish to be fooled that going to church naked is the pathway to heaven. One thing, the pure in heart shall see God and the poor in spirit and those persecuted for righteousness sake shall inherit the Kingdom of Heaven.

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Things You Only Know If You Went To an All Girls School

From faking your period to get out of PE, to rolling your skirt to indecent lengths, there are certain things only all girls school alumni will appreciate…

  • That one time a year when you were allowed to mingle with your boys’ school equivalent was the highlight of your social calendar. Poor sods.
  • Even though there were no boys to impress you still made sure your skirt was of a barely decent length and your socks were of the over-knee variety. Girls dress to impress other girls dontcha know.
  • Because of the lack of boys, everyone automatically fancied the only male teacher under the age of 50. Bad breath? So what, he had a penis and a pulse.

  • Your head mistress had a canary fit every time a boy came within 10 feet of the school gate and announced the role call of shame in assembly every time a girl was caught ‘fraternizing’ with the opposite sex.
  • The first girl in your year to have sex was hailed as both a legend, and er, also a bit of a slapper. Girls can be a horrible lot.
  • Sex education. Once the hysterical giggles died down all you really learnt was how to put a condom on a banana.
  • Swimming lessons. Cue 23 out of 30 girls being on their period! Weird?

  • You couldn’t make it from the dinner hall to your form room without linking arms with your BFF.
  • You can’t get used to the fact that it’s not totally acceptable to yell across a crowded room to ask if anyone has a tampon?
  • Speaking of which. There was a dedicated cupboard full of ‘lady’ products just in case anyone ran out.
  • There was always one girl who was unfairly labeled the school lesbian. Even if she was 100% straight.
  • Equally, you got pretty bored of the lesbian jokes people made when they found out you went to an all girls school. Come on, it’s the 21st century people.
  • Break-ups consisted of uncontrollable sobbing in the toilets, while being comforted by at least five friends. At times like this it was totally acceptable to be late to class. Your teacher never seemed to agree, however.
  • When you went to university and a boy sat next to you, it felt more than a little odd.
  • Also deciding what to wear every day seemed like an unnecessary chore.
  • You’re bloody good at French plaits. On account that there wasn’t much else to do at lunch time.
  • Those communal changing rooms at the gym? They don’t phase you.
  • You’ve never really got over your obsession with netball. Lacrosse on the other hand. If you never see another lacrosse stick again, it will be all too soon.

Originally appeared in Marie Claire.

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Adam Levine’s (and R. City) Locked Away

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I have to admit that this is a song I ain’t getting over any time soon.

Boy! You will easily burst into tears when you listen to it and reflect a bit.

It pierces the heart to the core from the very first word of the video. First, parents have to leave their fams behind in search of greener pastures for the sake of these same families. It only  makes me feel like life is unfair. But as the adage goes, everything happens for a reason.

I cannot say it is a break up song, nor a love song. But the content and everything are like a litmus paper on an aspect of true love. Maybe this should be sung by partners before they walk down the aisle. Or before they decide to start off on the journey of love. Or when else?

It’s too emotional man! And y’all should listen to it.

Click here to watch the video on YouTube

And we all can’t forget to remark Adam Levine. For everything. Did you see this cute little  girl who had like an adorable funny crush on Adam Levine? Have an aawww moment!

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On Becoming a Better She – Gloria Steinem Nuggets

  • Women are always saying, “We can do anything that men can do.” But men should be saying, “We can do anything that women can do.”
  • I have yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to combine marriage and a career.
  • A liberated woman is one who has sex before marriage and a job after.
  • A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.
  • Women are not going to be equal outside the home until men are equal in it.
  • We are still identified by our looks instead of our hearts or heads. That’s why it’s so much better to break the rules. If the rules worked, we’d be able to see it. If women were able to sleep to the top, there would be many more women at the top.
  • For women bras, panties, bathing suits, and other stereotypical gear are visual reminders of a commercial, idealized feminine image that our real and diverse female bodies can’t possibly fit. Without these visual references, each individual woman’s body demands to be accepted on its own terms. We stop being comparatives. We begin to be unique.
  • There are really not many jobs that actually require a penis or a vagina, and all other occupations should be open to everyone.
  • Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.
  • I’ve yet to be on a campus where most women weren’t worrying about some aspects of combining marriage, children and a career. I’ve yet to find one where many men were worrying about the same thing.
  • So whatever you want to do, just do it… Making a damn fool of yourself is absolutely essential.
  • Power can be taken, but not given. The process of the taking is empowerment in itself.
  • A woman who aspires to be something is called a bitch.
  • Gloria Steinem is an American feminist,
  • journalist and social and political activist who became nationally
  • recognized as a leader and spokeswoman for the feminist movement in the late 60s
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How to Take Great Photos – Even For Business

Photography is the main idea here. Please allow me to share with you something I bumped into in one of my internet escapades. About good photography.

It will take a few years before you learn the technical side of photography. How to build a quality portfolio as well as finding what  your niche is in photography.

The first thing you need to know is that you need to be your worst critic, and I mean ask yourself with every photo you take: How could I improve next time?

If you get too comfortable with the feedback (“great shot”, “great composition”, etc) you get on Twitter, Facebook or whichever social network you display your work, you will not keep pushing yourself.

Don’t get into the trap of believing your photos are just the best simply because everyone on Facebook says they are “awesome”. That’s what people do on social media, they’ll like your photos in the hope you’ll return the favor. All it will do is massage your ego, not improve your photography.

Finally, only show your very best work. We all sometimes take average photos, make sure you don’t show yours.

Adapted from Nicholas Goodden photography

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